Question 1: Where do you think your interest in superheroes, mythology, etc. stemmed from? Is the interest purely as sexual fantasies, or is that just one facet of it?
Pretty much it has to do with just growing up on cartoons, toys, comic books, mythology, and video games, and letting my imagination run batshit wild. Actually, I was very often banned off comics, games, and TV by my parents, so a lot of it was just me making up my own versions of stuff to compensate. If I couldn't have a comic book, I'd just make one of my own, etc.
At the same time, my sex fantasies were probably influenced by such things, and without really making a conscious connection between the two, a lot of my fantasies involved women with superpowers of some sort using them to play with or have their way with me. I think one my first original characters I ever made was a woman with telekinesis, who would use her powers to hold me down and stroke me, or make me hump things. For some reason, this sort of super powered dominant woman theme just stuck with me, and my focus on superhumans in my other writings/drawings probably helped cement it.
Truthfully, even though I've been concentrating on them a lot more lately, my sexual stories only make up a small percentage of my general creativity in that regard. I've got maybe two or three sex-based worlds my stories are set in, versus at least a couple hundred others for sci-fi, mythology, fantasy, superhero, horror, or mixes in between. Now, mind you, less than 5% of said ideas see the light of day, so take from that what you will as far as how big one facet is versus the other. But the two facets have had mostly a parallel development until recently.
The mixing of superhero and fantasy elements into my sex stories is a fairly new thing for me to embrace, but I have occasionally woven some eroticism into my other characters' lives previously. Particularly as I got older and wanted to pursue more mature themes in terms of character relationships, some characters of mine became openly sexual, and I started to actually explore that facet of the character without just making a pornographic story of them.
However, that also eventually led to me doing the reverse, taking my basic erotic concepts and then adding more to them in terms of setting, theme, characterization, etc., and even going so far as to make erotica versions of non-erotica characters of mine. Hence my writings now are more or less a fusion of the two facets.
Hmm... that was a long-winded response. But I tend to tangent when it comes to the creative process.
But the first time I was tied up with a partner, it was my idea. She was not particularly skilled at sex, so she mainly just kissed me a little and stroked me for a bit. I don't think I even got off, actually. Then she untied me, and we had sex, but she was pretty much just a "lay there and take it" type of lover. I don't think I got off at all that night, actually.
Sissification would more likely just end up breaking the mood; I don't really do humiliation, because I'm actually extremely hard to humiliate. I could go through the motions, but I'm pretty sure it would just kill the mood for me. I mean, I could certainly try and play along, if she really got something out of it, sure, but if her intent is to keep me at full steam while taunting me, I'd probably end up disappointing her.
Cuckolding would end the relationship right then and there. I couldn't handle my last girlfriend being poly, there's no way I'm going to be in a relationship where she fucks another man (or woman), and leaves me high and dry. That's more than just not getting any sex, that's an emotional dagger through the heart I don't need to put myself through.
Q4: Have you ever found yourself doing something that, even if it was a limit, you never imagined yourself doing? Tell us about it.
I can't think of anything that I've had done to me that wasn't something I eventually took an interest in and decided to try out. As for doing things to people...
Going back to my last girlfriend, she was into pain and dominance that I wasn't. But, we were both switches leaning towards natural subs, so we ended up domming each other. While it didn't necessarily arouse me, I had a lot of fun doing all sorts of things to her.
However, one thing she had me do to her which I never imagined myself doing with someone was breathplay. She had me choke her a few times. Apparently, I'm a natural at it, because I was able to do it just the right way right off the bat, closing off her air without leaving any marks on her, and doing it for as long as she could take.
Honestly, I didn't much like doing that, but I did it for her sake. Of course, I never imagined being in a serious relationship with someone who was genuinely poly, and that ended up being the case with her. But I ended that relationship when I realized I couldn't handle it, so I dunno if you'd count that too much.
Question 6: What is the extent of you D/s experience, both online and r/l? What was your longest relationship, and what did you learn the most from that time together?
Longest sexual relationship (we weren't a "couple" the entire time, but still had sex before and after) was about a year. I learned I am not into being poly, primarily. Also learned I am apparently pretty good at dishing out sensual pain. Other than that... I guess I just appreciated having someone whom I could experiment with sexually a lot, but I can't say I really learned stuff about myself that I didn't already pretty much know.
Mainly, I just picked the name because I liked it. I used to go by Peniswithoutacause, but I was unable to use the name to log back into OD for some reason (probably got erased by one of the site crashes). So, I decided to go with a new name and a new "look", more or less.
At the time, Salamando seemed cool because: 1) It looked a bit like a porn name. I dunno why, but it just seemed kinky. 2) I have red hair, and Salamando is fire based. *shrug* Loose connection, but whatever. 3) I always thought the mana spirits from Secret of Mana were awesome, and I always thought Salamando was the best of them; at least, he had the best design. 4) "Sal" is a nice (and realistic) nickname, so I can go by that in casual conversation without it sounding awkward. So, I went with Salamando, and had the image as my avatar ever since to give the "persona" a bit of consistent personality.
Fantasy and real life don't always mix, but I am still a sexual person who craves to have his needs fulfilled to some degree. On the other hand, outside of the bedroom, I know I wouldn't be a good sub. I'm into orgasm delay more than denial, so I could never really last a number of days without cumming if I was really horny, and I wouldn't want to wear a chastity belt or anything.
I also wouldn't mind being in a switch relationship again, if only because the variety keeps it fresh, and I could have fun being a Dom from time to time.