Addressing Common Concerns

In the years I’ve been quasi-consistently writing erotica, there are several questions and counter-points from readers that repeatedly pop-up. I have addressed some of these concerns in the past, but I figured I’d finally make an F.A.Q. that answers all the major talking points.

WRITING REQUESTS
Will you write a story for me?
-Commissions
-Why not other types of erotica?
Can I write a Sex Mage story?
Why don't you do continuations?
I have an idea for a Sex Mage story you might not like.
-Women lose the Magic/Men become immune.
-What would "really" happen.

DARK THEMES IN MY WRITING
Why so much cruelty?
-Magic and evil.
-Why not empowerment through niceness?
Your work disturbs me.
Don't you realize how messed up your ideas are?

OTHER CONCERNS
LGBT+ content.
Sexist themes.
Inconsistent productivity.

One of your stories is missing, can you repost it?

Writing Requests

Hey, I have an idea for a story, could you write it for me?

No. I do not write other people’s stories for them. I have too many of my own stories to tell, and I have a hard enough time writing those. I can only write what I’m interested in, and when it comes to erotica especially, I’m interested in a very narrow range of subject matter. Most suggestions I’m given are not within that range.

Moreover, if an idea didn’t come from my own head, or isn’t something that I grew interested in enough on my own to want to iterate on, then I don’t feel like it’s properly “mine” to write. My muse largely comes from within, and is extremely finicky. This makes taking suggestions for stories difficult, and it often knocks the wind out of my creative sales if someone “beats me to the punch” on a story concept.

--What if I paid you? Can’t you work on commission?

No. Believe me, part of me wishes I could just grind out write-for-hire work. I’d probably be making a lot more money that way. But even with financial motivation, I just can’t write the things I don’t want to write.

--Why don’t you write other types of erotica? (aka “Why don’t you appeal to my fetish?” or “Why don’t you try writing mass-market appeal content?”)

I’m just not interested. Moreover, pretty much every other fetish has by this point been covered in excess. No matter how weird and obscure the content, there are already communities on the internet covering it. So, going back to the whole “beaten to the punch” thing, even if I was really into, say, chastity belt stories, there’s about ten million of those already on the internet, so I would feel pretty much no need to write any, as there’s nothing I could add.

Part of what motivated me to write my content is that I can barely find anything that appeals to my very niche interest. No one was doing anything quite like Sex Mages or the other psychic femdom content I started writing, and the extremely few things I found similar to it still didn’t quite hit the mark. So, I had to make it myself.

I am interested in writing a Sex Mage World story. Is that alright?

Yes, I don’t mind that at all! I do have a few minor caveats, though. In brief, I don’t mind you using the Sex Mage, Sex Mage World, and related concepts, but I’d really rather people not use my specific characters or my other erotic settings. I’d also appreciate it if you credited me for the original concept if you use it directly, but I also encourage people to put their own twist on the idea to make it more theirs if they want to.

For a more thorough explanation, please consult this article for specifics: So You Want To Write A Sex Mage Story

Why don’t you do more sequels or continuations of stories?

Mostly, I just want to keep exploring new scenarios within the context of my erotic universes. I also find it difficult to actually continue the stories of most of my erotic characters, since I say pretty much all I intend to say about them within the first story I use them in.

For a more thorough explanation, read this article: On Sequels. It’s pretty old by now, but the points are still valid.

Hey, I have this idea for a Sex Mage story, but you’re probably not going to like it. Can you help me with it anyway?

I understand catharsis and speculation as writing motivators. If you really want to write a Sex Mage story that explores themes contrary to the premise, fine. I’m not going to be mad about that. But I write the SMW the way I do because I like it how it is. I’m not going to be interested in reading or helping write stories that only serve to tear down the world I created.

With that in mind, the two most frequent “anti-SMW” proposals I get are:

1) A man becomes immune to the magic, or women start to lose the magic, or men gain their own magic, etc.

This seems to be the first thing anyone thinks of the moment I explain what the Sex Mage World is. I get it. Any individual with a creative bone in their body is going to take the established rules of a world, especially one as contentious as the SMW, and want to defy those rules for an instant, obvious conflict for a story idea. Direct defiance of the status quo is fiction writing 101.

However, the Sex Mage World is itself a defiance of the status quo. The dynamic of the extreme power imbalance so sharply contrasts with how the real world and most fiction portrays the relationship between the genders. So, how do people deal with the new paradigm, especially once it’s set in that there is no easy off-switch to put things back to normal? That, to me, is the inherently interesting aspect of the SMW that leads to the best character drama and worldbuilding. Wanting to do a story that just resets everything back to normal, or flips the power dynamic the other way, just misses the whole point.

Bear in mind that even in the Apocalypse Timeline, which did feature some men gaining powers of their own and/or immunity to the magic, it always came at a high cost. Because the point was still to give women the advantage and put men at a disadvantage, so any “progress” made to rebalancing the scales was still undermined by a compromising trade-off. For me, that is much more dramatically engaging and challenging, to find ways to explore such concepts while still working within the themes of the SMW, instead of just going the obvious, easy route of “one day, the Magic stops working.”

2) What would “really happen”.

Every single one of these I’ve gotten is a story that just wallows in the misery of what a dystopian nightmare the Sex Mage World would be. It usually involves men being depressed and killing themselves, and women being evil and guilty. The overall tone of these is, “the Sex Mage World is bad, and you should feel bad.” Some of these try to have a bit of a hopeful ending, but it’s usually too little, too late, and ultimately isn’t all that hopeful if you continue to extrapolate the dystopian logic from there.

I understand my content, looked at through a realistic lens, has some very dark themes. I understand that it can be disturbing for some people. If you really feel the need to exorcise your dark feelings about the SMW by writing such a story, fine. However, I would like to point out that becoming fixated on those dark themes, again, misses the point.

The SMW is not intended to be a deep, philosophical exploration of humanity’s moral failings and corruptibility. It is a fetish fantasy world, first and foremost. Yes, of course, you can easily write a story that explores the massive dystopian themes of the setting, but you could also do that with a lot of other genre fiction. In fact, pretty much every other gynocracy fetish story I’ve ever seen could also be deconstructed to explore such themes.

And to elaborate further on that, let’s go into:

Dark Themes In My Writing

Why are the women in so many of your stories so vicious and cruel?

It gets my dick hard.

I have actually done plenty of stories featuring nice women in consensual relationships. I just don’t find it as consistently arousing as use-and-abuse, non-con, and dub-con. Bear in mind that I like the sexual content to be extreme either way, so even the nice, consensual stories tend to feature sex that some people find to be too over the top.

--So does Sex Magic just turn women evil? I don't want to believe women would be this cruel with the power.

No, the Magic does not just re-write a woman's brain chemistry to turn them evil. Personally, I hate that sort of thing in fiction. It's too convenient of an excuse, takes away character agency and accountability, and robs them of proper development. Not that the SMW is trying to be high literature by any means, but it's still a storytelling trope I do my best to avoid.

Being corrupted by the temptations of power is one of humanity's biggest and most persistent flaws, and makes villains that much more interesting in my eyes. In some cases, if  plot point hinges on someone using full-on possession or direct mind control, it can work okay, but generally, I just don't care for that sort of easy excuse.

If it's easier for you to just head-canon that that's how that works, fine, but officially, all the bad stuff people do in the Sex Mage World is the result of their own choices. If it helps, you can probably assume some exaggeration on my part for the sake of fetish and dramatic tension. Likewise, I tend to focus on the cruel more often than the kind because that's just where my interests lie.

--Why not have the Magic punish women for being cruel, and rewarded women for being nice?

If you want to write a story where it's like that, feel free. But that's not how I'd like to have it. Consider what you're actually proposing here: if they're just being nice to guys for power, that doesn't make them good, it's just means they're opportunistic and callous, not actually sympathetic or caring.

The women have all the power. This means the only thing stopping them is themselves and each other. Making a man happy should be something they want to do on a personal level, despite the temptations of power abuse. This means that the good women out there are all the more admirable for sticking to their moral guns, even as most of society just takes the easy route. That, for me, builds a lot more meaningful characterization for the good characters than just re-balancing the scales of power so it forces the women to be nicer.

Something about your work has deeply disturbed me. Even though part of me likes it, part of me can’t get over the dark elements of these stories, and it’s messing me up mentally.

That is unfortunate, but at the end of the day, you are responsible for what you choose to read. I am not your therapist and I am not your scapegoat. If you stumbled onto my work by accident and don’t like what you see, then don’t read any more of it. There are billions of other works of fiction out there  for you to enjoy, so don’t waste your time on stories that have such a negative impact on you.

If you are genuinely suffering some kind of mental breakdown because of my content, then there is a lot more going on with you than just one of my stories giving you uncomfortable thoughts. Stop reading my content and seek professional help. I mean that sincerely, with no judgment, and the hope that you are able to return to good health.

If you are otherwise okay, but my work is giving you anxiety, then for your own good, stop reading my content. Go do something else that puts you in a better mood. The sooner you break off this source of anxiety, the sooner you can recover from it.

Don’t you ever worry about the dark themes in your work? Has it never occurred to you how traumatic and terrible the Sex Mage World would be for people? All men would castrate and kill themselves, and all women would become soulless monsters! Etc.

A lot of people who confront me about this seem to think I don’t know how dark and fucked up my stories are or that I lack some fundamental understanding of humanity.

Of course I know how dark and fucked up my stories are. I conceived of and wrote them. And I’ve put a lot of thought behind the settings, and yes, that includes accounting for the realistic consequences that would result.

Believe it or not, I too, had my own personal freak out over my own content not long after I started posting it online. It did indeed disturb me to see how much of my work revolved around things like rape and molestation, and for my work to have so many evil women and brutalized men. I had to walk away for a little while to reassess things.

However, I got over it when I reminded myself that fantasy is not reality, and just because I like these kinds of stories, it doesn’t have any reflection on my real life views or desires. Just because I don’t make every Sex Mage World story a giant moral lecture about how rape is bad, or explore how depressing of a dystopian hellhole Sex Magic would really make the world, that doesn’t mean I’m ignorant of human psychology or that I think rape is okay in real life. And that goes for anyone who enjoys my work or similar stories.

What people who give me an earful about the darkness of my work fail to realize, or perhaps they forget as they read it, is that they are reading fetish fiction. Fetish fiction is not supposed to be a realistic portrayal of humanity, it’s not supposed to be some deep psychological exploration of human morality, and it doesn’t exist to be a mental comfort blanket for everyone who might happen to stumble upon it.

Fetishes are very touchy and divisive subjects. Whatever the fetish, you either “get it” or you don’t. If you’re on this side of the internet, you probably have a fetish of your own that you are really into, but that utterly disgusts someone else. There are fetishes you are probably disgusted by that other people are really into. Either way, you can nitpick the logical and moral failings of any fetish all day long, that isn’t going to change what people are turned on by or repulsed by. And such nitpicks often focus on aspects the fetish isn’t trying to explore in the first place.

Fetish fantasies also don’t reflect people’s real life desires. Lots of people enjoy rape fantasies, it doesn’t mean they actually want to get raped, or see anyone else actually get raped, because they know that in real life rape is terrible. Lots of people enjoy the fantasy of incest, it doesn’t mean they actually want to have sex with their real family members. Lots of people enjoy murdering creatures by the thousands in video games, doesn’t mean they want to actually go out and kill people.

If you don’t like the Sex Mage World, that’s fine. I don’t blame you. It’s a very weird, very niche fetish. Taken realistically, the Sex Mage World is a morally bankrupt, depression-inducing, highly traumatizing, self-destructive, dystopian hellhole. But the thing is, if you read a Sex Mage World story, and that’s what you mostly take away from the experience, is how dark the concept would be in real life, well, then you’re missing the point, and the stories probably aren’t for you.

You either get off on the idea of all women on Earth having magical psychic sex powers over men, because you find that concept of female sexual power carried to the extreme to be highly erotic, or you don’t. If you don’t, fair enough, go read something else. But spare me the lectures about how I supposedly don’t understand what the realistic consequences would be or how I don’t understand human psychology. I’ve heard them all already, and no one ever told me something I wasn’t already aware of well before I posted my first story.

--Okay, but, you write stories that address how dark the Sex Mage World is.

Yes, Yes, I do. Because even though I intended the Sex Mage World to be nothing more than a fetish vehicle, as a writer, I can’t help but want to explore the concept beyond that simple goal. No, I don’t want to depict the truly terrible depths of despair that others may want to explore, because I don’t want to go that far off the deep end with it, but I do see the SMW concept as also an interesting setting for character drama.

Sex Magic completely upends the social paradigm, changing how men and women relate to one another. Not only that, it radically changes society just due to how the Magic would disrupt so many industries we currently rely on. How do people deal with that, on a personal level? I don’t believe that every single man on Earth would kill themselves or that every single woman would become an irredeemable psychotic. So, putting those two extremes aside, how do the people who are stable enough to get on with their lives manage to get on with their lives with this strange new Magic changing everything?

That’s the kind of further world building and character exploration I find a lot more interesting than just hand waving that half the human race puts a bullet in their brain while the other half goes feral. But even with all that said, at the end of the day, the SMW is a fetish fantasy world at its core, and however far beyond that I may explore, you really shouldn’t take it too seriously.

Other Concerns

Why doesn’t Sex Magic account for LGBTQIA+ people? Do they not exist in your setting?

Gay, lesbian, bi, trans, queer, intersex, asexual, and other groups do exist in the Sex Mage World. They are subject to the same rules and restrictions of Sex Magic just like “straight” people. In-universe, the Magic is designed with the sole intention to give women power over men, because its creator wanted it that way. Said creator had no concern for human notions of sexual preference or gender identity, and thus did not bother to tweak the magic to appeal to those variables.

From a writing standpoint, I simply am not interested in LGBTQIA+ erotica. Sex Magic was designed around my very specific fetish for Femdom/Malesub, and I am not going to change that. For simplicity’s sake, I didn’t want any “half measures” when it came to the Magic, which is why intersex persons are not given any sort of special exception. Likewise, because I didn’t want to give men any easy outs from their situation, I didn’t want transitioning or being gay, bi, or asexual to be an easy loophole to escape the Magic. But of course, since the Magic is meant to give all the advantages to a woman, it made sense to allow for women to effect each other if they wanted, so that lesbian and bi women could enjoy it on their own terms.

Personally, I also think that it can make for some interesting character drama to see how such individuals deal with the magic, either trying to avoid it, or figuring out creative ways to use it to cater to their own desires. I have written a few stories and captions that address this, in fact, but it will never be more than a very minor theme in my work.

Your content is sexist and pushes a sexist agenda!

Sexist? There is sexism within the universe of the story, certainly, but the work itself isn’t any more sexist than any other erotic or fetish content. Pushing an agenda? No. My stories are not about any sort of politics or ideology. They have nothing to do with my real life views on women, men, or society, nor am I seeking to convince or encourage anyone to think or act in a certain way in real life.

This is simply my weird-ass sexual fetish. It is a fantasy and nothing more. At its simplest, it’s me just sharing the ideas that get me aroused. At its most complex, it’s me exploring certain concepts as a creative exercise of speculative fiction.

Some people may not be able to separate their fetish from their ideology, or their ideology is their fetish. I am not one of those people, and I do not wish to be lumped in with one group or the other because some one who doesn’t actually know me takes my ridiculous sex stories too seriously.


You haven't written anything in a while! Have you stopped?

Writing is difficult for me, due to a variety of reasons. Moreso than my other creative pursuits, my erotic writing is very muse-dependent, so to speak, and there is no telling when the inspiration and energy to write will hit me again.

My usual method of writing is to create a bunch of content in a short period of time, after which I will usually be burned out for a prolonged stretch of time. A week of manic productivity will usually be followed by a month, or several, of nothing. I have more recently worked to pace myself better, but a variety of issues can still slow or outright halt productivity. Even my most prolific years have had break months between productive months, and I can't predict the slumps any more than I can the strikes of inspiration.

I don't think I will ever stop writing my erotica, but unfortunately, I just can't produce it at a consistent schedule. I just don't have it in me. Ergo, erotica is a "get to it when I get to it", "feast or famine" sort of deal. So, if I haven't posted anything at all for a few months, don't worry, the blog isn't really "dead", it just may be awhile before you see the next thing.

Hey, one of your old stories is missing! Where is it? Can you repost it?

It sometimes seems like even the worst written, most obscure, short scene I've made is some person's favorite thing I've ever done, because it seems like whenever I decide to "trim the fat" off my blog, in less than a month someone is asking me what happened to [insert favorite story here]. While I'm flattered, sometimes I just don't like a piece I've written, either because I feel like the quality is just too terrible (especially for my earliest stuff), or I went back and wrote an improved version and thus the old version is more or less "obsolete", or I ended up not liking the subject matter of the story, or some other personal reason motivated me.

I go through periods where I want to post everything I ever wrote as a sort of point of pride of "look how far back my history goes!" and then a few months later, swing the other way with "god, half of these stories I can't even read anymore, they're so bad, and I'm just cluttering up my Tables of Content with excess trash, delete-delete-delete!"

I know there are people who got really attached to my early stuff, and I'm not ashamed to have written it, but it's also kind of off putting when people come to the blog, click on certain entries, and that first impression is something like the Magic Lina stories, which were really just terrible pieces of writing, however arousing the idea of Lina might be. So even tho I did re-post them some years ago to "claim" that part of my oeuvre, I ended up taking them down again on a more recent spring cleaning of the site.

I don't really want to shut anyone out, but there are some old story I would just rather not host here. If I change my mind and repost later, then so be it. Sometimes, tho, I don't even have a copy of the old stuff, so that's not possible anymore. And sometimes, well, I apologize if it pisses some people off, but I would just rather not clutter my site with certain stories anymore.